Hasn’t been updating all my blog for some while, has been struggling with time to clear all the backlog of the book that I planned to read. Too much things to do and too little time to get all things done at once. Finally, it’s good that I can start blogging again on a quiet and relaxation environment back home where thought and idea starts flowing in. This is going to be a relaxation post. It is says that the biggest and most headache problem face by most blogger are what to write. I have this problem as well even I have been blogging for the past 3 years, it may get more obvious if you are not familiar with the topic that you are going blog about. Struggling what to write and finding content to write can be frustrating and drain you emotionally. It is often easy to start than to maintain, foremost each post you write need to be easily absorb and comprehend by real human being from all walks of life that has the mind to react and response to what you had written. Thankfully, all this can be improve, practice makes perfect.
No matter you have zero visitor a day or thousands of visitors a day, being professional should leads you somewhere, you don’t do it for statistic, you do it for yourself to cultivate good habits and improve your skills of writing, blog with passion. Anyhow content is king, everyone can pen their thoughts and share with the world, you are having one in between your ears, your greatest assets of all. That’s why blogging is fun.
Somehow, I wasn’t quite sure about why I started this domain with a blog title lifestyle and happiness that happen to be bought for someone and end up I am the one keeping it. Reselling it has no value as it hold a person name, therefore, instead of parking the domain for the next 8 months, I would just start a blog and make myself better in understanding the science of happiness and what is it meant to be living a perfect lifestyle. Haha … how I wish I could learn the mastery of happiness, I am just a simple guy with a simple goal, happiness is just a state of mind, we are given choice to choose the state in our mind at any given time. It’s always your call to choose the state of mind to be happy and it should be independent and not dependent, else you will get disappointed to rely on others to make you happy, because this would not happen or last long. I learned a hard ways, this is always true.
Since I have decided to start, I would just keep my promise to myself even I am not familiar with the topic to blog, I would just take it as a challenge and to be honest, this blog would not be update frequently as my priority is not on this domain, maybe 1 or 2 post a week. Somehow, if you happen to visit here through referral links or search engine, I appreciate your time to drop by and I would be glad if you could subscribe to this blog RSS and I hold my promise that each blog post will get something that could be meaningful to you.
This isn’t funny, it’s only 5 more days to 2008 Olympic Games, the China government has already handouts etiquette booklets to Beijing’s 15 million residents to advised them on clothing and social etiquette. The booklets includes everything from what to wear to what not to wear. Source from You’re telling me to wear what? - UK Times Online
This reminds me back to old school rules where we are advise what to wear, how to wear it, colour combination and hair length. Give me a break, I am sure chinese people know what fashion is. This isn’t funny, I agreed that they do need these guide, but it’s not about east or west, it is just merely for good social behaviour to make foreigners feels comfortable and happy staying in Beijing.
Enough said, I guess the guide should be applicable in Malaysia as well, ermm..at least we are slightly better that we don’t spit around.
Don’t
— Men should not allow their hair to grow over eyebrows, ears or collar
— Sport pyjamas in public
— Roll up trousers
— Bare chests
— Wear white socks with black shoes
— Wear high collar if they have a short neck
— Women should not wear leather skirts, transparent garments, clashing colours or more than three colour groups at once
— No resident should display affection in public
— Fight over who settles the bill
— Press others to drink at a banquet
Do
— Men should shave daily
— Plant their feet slightly apart, in the shape of a V
— Women should wear light make-up
— Comb hair appropriately for age, occupation and situation
— Darker stockings should be used to cover thicker ankles
— Match the length of skirt to age. Young girls can wear skirts three centimetres to six centimetres above the knee
— All residents should go easy on garlic and clean their mouths
2008 Matta fair is just around the corner, plan your trip yet? Today I am not going to talk about travel but to share with you something to do with travel. Souvenir is part of the to do list when you travel to reminds you of a great trip. I am sure you would have some souvenirs cover in dust displayed on your desk or underneath your bed, well, at least for me. Do you know that some souvenir such as arts, antique and limited collection of souvenir (upcoming Beijing Olympic 2008 souvenirs) have great resale opportunity? I know it’s expensive and it could be priceless for you as a reminder of your favorite travel memories. If you have limited budget, an inexpensive souvenir is more than enough as it could be part of the family for generations to come. You can show them to your children or grandson.
Another must do list when you go travel is to bring along a good camera to capture all great memories back, although it would not have resale opportunity but it would be priceless for you. So, you have your camera and a nice souvenir, what are you gonna do with it when you are standing in front of a great scenery that remind you about the trip, here’s a simple idea that make your souvenir more meaningful with just a little bit of creativity.
Take a look at michael hughes souvenirs project as an eye opener that could make your trip more fun and enjoyable. By the way, I wish I could travel as many place like him.
Yesterday I was watching TV news and what caught my attention was Randy Pausch, a Carnegie Mellon professor, almost a year he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, he accepted that something that could not be change and he deals with it optismistically. If you have one last lecture to give what would it be? This video has been watched millions of time and I have a hard time to load it yesterday, very inspirational and I am sure everyone will take something away from it.
Randy Pausch died on July 25th 2008, from incurable pancreatic cancer, leaving three kids and a wife who became famous for his book “The Last Lecture”. He had lived three months longer than the three to six months doctors had predicted. I haven’t had a chance to take a look at the book, probably this weekend, if you are those who likes life story book that was honest, I think it is a highly recommend book as it became no. 2 top seller self help book in amazon and it does get quite a good number of reviews.
Well, after watching the video, I started to think of life and death. I asked myself, what is the most important things in the world? is it love? money? happiness? If happiness is the most important thing for you, then what is the values of happiness. You can know the answer if you can answer this question yourself: what would do if you know you are going to die soon? would you hope that you will get another big house or posh car? No, you would want to laugh more, love more and worrying less. Now, that’s the values of happiness for you, yet it proved that money can’t buy happiness.
If we learn to focus on our values and life purpose, we can begin to see the big picture of our life more abudantly.
Below is some of the inspiring quotes from Randy Pausch’s Last Lecture (source: http://blog.qoqoa.com/)
We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.
I probably got more from that dream and not accomplishing it than I got from any of the ones that I did accomplish.
You’ve got to get the fundamentals down because otherwise the fancy stuff isn’t going to work.
When you see yourself doing something badly and nobody’s bothering to tell you anymore, that’s a very bad place to be. Your critics are your ones telling you they still love you and care.
Experience is what you get when you didn’t get what you wanted.
Head fake learning is absolutely important, and you should keep your eye out for them because they’re everywhere.
The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough.
It’s pretty easy to be smart when you’re parroting smart people.
It’s very important to know when you’re in a pissing match. And it’s very important to get out of it as quickly as possible.
Until you got ice cream spilled on you, you’re not doing field work.
I can’t tell you beforehand, but right before they present it I can tell you if the world (his students project work) is good by the body language. If they’re standing close to each other, the world is good.
If you’re going to do anything that pioneering you will get those arrows in the back, and you just have to put up with it. I mean everything that could go wrong did go wrong.
Somewhere along the way there’s got to be some aspect of what lets you get to achieve your dreams. First one is the role of parents, mentors, and students.
And he (Andy Van Dam) said, Randy, it’s such a shame that people perceive you as so arrogant. Because it’s going to limit what you’re going to be able to accomplish in life.
You just have to decide if you’re a Tigger or an Eeyore.
I have a theory that people who come from large families are better people because they’ve just had to learn to get along.
Loyalty is a two way street.
Syl said, it took me a long time but I’ve finally figured it out. When it comes to men that are romantically interested in you, it’s really simple. Just ignore everything they say and only pay attention to what they do. It’s that simple. It’s that easy.
You can’t get there alone. People have to help you and I do believe in karma. I believe in paybacks. You get people to help you by telling the truth. Being earnest.
I’ll take an earnest person over a hip person every day, because hip is short term. Earnest is long term.
Apologise when you screw up and focus on other people, not on yourself.
Don’t bail. The best of the gold’s at the bottom of barrels of crap.
Get a feedback loop and listen to it. Your feedback loop can be this dorky spreadsheet thing I did, or it can just be one great man who tells you what you need to hear. The hard part is the listening to it.
Don’t complain. Just work harder. That’s a picture of Jackie Robinson. It was in his contract not to complain, even when the fans spit on him.
Be good at something, it makes you valuable.
Find the best in everybody. Just keep waiting no matter how long it takes. No one is all evil. Everybody has a good side, just keep waiting, it will come out.
Be prepared. Luck is truly where preparation meets opportunity.
It’s not about how to achieve your dreams. It’s about how to lead your life. If you lead your life the right way, the karma will take care of itself. The dreams will come to you.
While on my surfing routines, I stumble upon askmen.com and found an excellent survey, the 2008 great male survey and 2008 great female survey. Recently askmen.com had just revealed the 2008 Great Male Survey and 2008 Great Female Survey. It’s an interesting survey to get to know the latest modern man and woman. There are a few survey that caught my surprise, I would share with you at the end of the post. The surveys is good to know as men are from mars and women are from venus, they tend to react and think differently, the survey gives a woman better ideas what an average man thinks and feels, while man can better understand what a woman wants.
Modern Man, they no longer being portrayed as insensitive, immature and commitment phobe, man are now more prior towards loyalty and family. Applause to all man and this would definitely benefits all woman out there.
Modern Woman, this may seems surprise as modern woman are now more bold, sexy and not afraid to go after what they wants. My surprise is that women have more sex partners - 20% of women admitted to having had more than 15 sex partners, while only 17% of the male respondents said have had more than 15 partners.
Alright, here’s more of my surprises,
Men
77% of men look for girlfriends with “wife potential” 69% of men would never cheat on their partner
57% of men cook at home and enjoying doing it 56% of men said that being a good father or husband makes a man “manly” That’s good, does that means more man would looks for wife potential rather than girlfriend potential? I am not sure how to differentiate them but I am sure that being a wife potential should be able to cooks, taking care of the childrens, faithful, lovely and understanding. Less man cheater? how true? great man don’t cheat and how I wish my next partner would not cheat and I have enough of those experienced and learned a lesson from life from a great pretender. We use to think that man who know how to play music instruments(piano, guitar and etc) are attractive, but not for France woman, because they finds cooking man attractive, I am not sure where I read the new but I think this is true, being a good father or husband should be able to cook and this really makes them “manly”.
Women
20% of women admitted to having had more than 15 sex partners versus 17% of the male respondents said have had more than 15 partners. 34% of females respondents said they would not change a thing about their lovers versus 17% of men said the same.
23% of female respondents are completely satisfied with their sex lives, versus 14% of males. 17% of the female respondents have lied to a partner about their sexual experiences versus 31% of men have lied.
Women are always interested in sex and relationship, what can I says about modern woman, more open and more sex partners. Hmm … I am doubt but rather agreed. Modern woman is getting less demanding and sastified, “maybe?”.
This reminds me back to old school rules where we are advise what to wear, how to wear it, colour combination and hair length. Give me a break, I am sure chinese people know what fashion is. This isn’t funny, I agreed that they do need these guide, but it’s not about east or west, it is just merely for good social behaviour to make foreigners feels comfortable and happy staying in Beijing.
Randy Pausch died on July 25th 2008, from incurable pancreatic cancer, leaving three kids and a wife who became famous for his book “The Last Lecture”. He had lived three months longer than the three to six months doctors had predicted. I haven’t had a chance to take a look at the book, probably this weekend, if you are those who likes life story book that was honest, I think it is a highly recommend book as it became no. 2 top seller self help book in amazon and it does get quite a good number of reviews.