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People make mistakes in their life, and sometimes mistakes they made can jeopardize a person in different aspect of life, either financially, emotionally or physically. It is impossible to say that there isn’t anyone that does not have someone to hate from time to time, either the person has learnt to forgive or forgotten the incidents after going through a series of painful journey. They’ve learnt to let go and live better.

Moreover, we are not born to hate another person, but we must learn to hate in order to love, if you know how to hate, then you can be taught to love and love are always easier to be accept by human heart than hate.

I don’t know about others, but I do not have many people to hate in my life, if I do, either they have caused miserable in my life and robbed my trustworthy on them.  Moving forward, I have learnt to trust a person wiser and reluctant to get myself being miserable than ever before. Each lesson changes your life; it’s all about part and parcel of learning cycles. 

I would hope better but I don’t know. My belief is that people often make mistake in their life, and sometimes they aren’t aware about it until one day, they learned, you should hate and know why, by knowing what you hate and what cause you to suffer, it will give you a sense of forgiveness to let go with the pain you are suffering. 

I understand that emotion is difficult to control, but to hate one person is difficult enough. If you hate them, write them down, why you hate them, burn it or throw them in the dustbin after you wrote, they no longer bother us. “What is not part of ourselves does not bother us.” 

I often find charisma something that cannot be earned, and it’s either born with or not. It’s some kind of magical or mysterious magnetism that one had. If you asked me what is charisma, I would depict charisma as someone who is outstanding, successful and attracting attention (good qualities) when he/she appeared in public and do not have to put extra efforts to tell anyone.

I have seen and admire charismatic people who has strong sense of presence who can light up a room immediately and command respect when approach, it makes everyone looks small. This kind of quality is something money can’t buy, and it’s good to have to gain acceptance and respect whenever you are. When I wrote this, it reminds me about a girl in my life who had charisma but did not utilize the power of charisma she has to achieved what she wants, although at one glance, she may look highly intellectual, sophisticated, successful and rich but in reality, she’s somewhat opposite, the things she likes and ways of thinking is not what I perceived as charisma when I first took it. I slowly realize that the charisma she has isn’t something to shout about when it comes to reality.

Although, this may not always be the case, there’s always an odds case happen, people with charisma are often somewhat different, their magnetic personality, confident level, body language and the ways their emotion influence other are intrigue. Well, it’s not necessary charisma need to be rich and live luxury, charisma people make other feels good about themselves in a way that is not overwhelming. Charisma cannot be fake or pretend as it comes out naturally from his/her characteristic. It’s some kind of unexplained attraction signals that is pure in every way. Charisma can be good and evil, some people can use charisma to manipulate one mind and manipulate situation to do bad things. If you posses one, make sure you use it in a positive and productive manner that guarantee you a prosperous and happiness life to fulfill with. Charisma is a gift from GOD, if you possed one, be proud of it as it not just give other but give right back to you in the process.

Yesterday I was watching TV news and what caught my attention was Randy Pausch, a Carnegie Mellon professor, almost a year he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, he accepted that something that could not be change and he deals with it optismistically. If you have one last lecture to give what would it be? This video has been watched millions of time and I have a hard time to load it yesterday, very inspirational and I am sure everyone will take something away from it.

Randy Pausch died on July 25th 2008, from incurable pancreatic cancer, leaving three kids and a wife who became famous for his book “The Last Lecture”. He had lived three months longer than the three to six months doctors had predicted. I haven’t had a chance to take a look at the book, probably this weekend, if you are those who likes life story book that was honest, I think it is a highly recommend book as it became no. 2 top seller self help book in amazon and it does get quite a good number of reviews.

Well, after watching the video, I started to think of life and death. I asked myself, what is the most important things in the world? is it love? money? happiness? If happiness is the most important thing for you, then what is the values of happiness. You can know the answer if you can answer this question yourself: what would do if you know you are going to die soon? would you hope that you will get another big house or posh car? No, you would want to laugh more, love more and worrying less. Now, that’s the values of happiness for you, yet it proved that money can’t buy happiness.

If we learn to focus on our values and life purpose, we can begin to see the big picture of our life more abudantly.

Below is some of the inspiring quotes from Randy Pausch’s Last Lecture (source: http://blog.qoqoa.com/)

• We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.

• I probably got more from that dream and not accomplishing it than I got from any of the ones that I did accomplish.

• You’ve got to get the fundamentals down because otherwise the fancy stuff isn’t going to work.

• When you see yourself doing something badly and nobody’s bothering to tell you anymore, that’s a very bad place to be. Your critics are your ones telling you they still love you and care.

• Experience is what you get when you didn’t get what you wanted.

• Head fake learning is absolutely important, and you should keep your eye out for them because they’re everywhere.

• The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough.

• It’s pretty easy to be smart when you’re parroting smart people.

• It’s very important to know when you’re in a pissing match. And it’s very important to get out of it as quickly as possible.

• Until you got ice cream spilled on you, you’re not doing field work.

• I can’t tell you beforehand, but right before they present it I can tell you if the world (his students project work) is good by the body language. If they’re standing close to each other, the world is good.

• If you’re going to do anything that pioneering you will get those arrows in the back, and you just have to put up with it. I mean everything that could go wrong did go wrong.

• Somewhere along the way there’s got to be some aspect of what lets you get to achieve your dreams. First one is the role of parents, mentors, and students.

• And he (Andy Van Dam) said, Randy, it’s such a shame that people perceive you as so arrogant. Because it’s going to limit what you’re going to be able to accomplish in life.

• You just have to decide if you’re a Tigger or an Eeyore.

• I have a theory that people who come from large families are better people because they’ve just had to learn to get along.

• Loyalty is a two way street.

• Syl said, it took me a long time but I’ve finally figured it out. When it comes to men that are romantically interested in you, it’s really simple. Just ignore everything they say and only pay attention to what they do. It’s that simple. It’s that easy.

• You can’t get there alone. People have to help you and I do believe in karma. I believe in paybacks. You get people to help you by telling the truth. Being earnest.

• I’ll take an earnest person over a hip person every day, because hip is short term. Earnest is long term.

• Apologise when you screw up and focus on other people, not on yourself.

• Don’t bail. The best of the gold’s at the bottom of barrels of crap.

• Get a feedback loop and listen to it. Your feedback loop can be this dorky spreadsheet thing I did, or it can just be one great man who tells you what you need to hear. The hard part is the listening to it.

• Don’t complain. Just work harder. That’s a picture of Jackie Robinson. It was in his contract not to complain, even when the fans spit on him.

• Be good at something, it makes you valuable.

• Find the best in everybody. Just keep waiting no matter how long it takes. No one is all evil. Everybody has a good side, just keep waiting, it will come out.

• Be prepared. Luck is truly where preparation meets opportunity.

• It’s not about how to achieve your dreams. It’s about how to lead your life. If you lead your life the right way, the karma will take care of itself. The dreams will come to you.