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Yesterday I was watching TV news and what caught my attention was Randy Pausch, a Carnegie Mellon professor, almost a year he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, he accepted that something that could not be change and he deals with it optismistically. If you have one last lecture to give what would it be? This video has been watched millions of time and I have a hard time to load it yesterday, very inspirational and I am sure everyone will take something away from it.

Randy Pausch died on July 25th 2008, from incurable pancreatic cancer, leaving three kids and a wife who became famous for his book “The Last Lecture”. He had lived three months longer than the three to six months doctors had predicted. I haven’t had a chance to take a look at the book, probably this weekend, if you are those who likes life story book that was honest, I think it is a highly recommend book as it became no. 2 top seller self help book in amazon and it does get quite a good number of reviews.

Well, after watching the video, I started to think of life and death. I asked myself, what is the most important things in the world? is it love? money? happiness? If happiness is the most important thing for you, then what is the values of happiness. You can know the answer if you can answer this question yourself: what would do if you know you are going to die soon? would you hope that you will get another big house or posh car? No, you would want to laugh more, love more and worrying less. Now, that’s the values of happiness for you, yet it proved that money can’t buy happiness.

If we learn to focus on our values and life purpose, we can begin to see the big picture of our life more abudantly.

Below is some of the inspiring quotes from Randy Pausch’s Last Lecture (source: http://blog.qoqoa.com/)

• We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.

• I probably got more from that dream and not accomplishing it than I got from any of the ones that I did accomplish.

• You’ve got to get the fundamentals down because otherwise the fancy stuff isn’t going to work.

• When you see yourself doing something badly and nobody’s bothering to tell you anymore, that’s a very bad place to be. Your critics are your ones telling you they still love you and care.

• Experience is what you get when you didn’t get what you wanted.

• Head fake learning is absolutely important, and you should keep your eye out for them because they’re everywhere.

• The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough.

• It’s pretty easy to be smart when you’re parroting smart people.

• It’s very important to know when you’re in a pissing match. And it’s very important to get out of it as quickly as possible.

• Until you got ice cream spilled on you, you’re not doing field work.

• I can’t tell you beforehand, but right before they present it I can tell you if the world (his students project work) is good by the body language. If they’re standing close to each other, the world is good.

• If you’re going to do anything that pioneering you will get those arrows in the back, and you just have to put up with it. I mean everything that could go wrong did go wrong.

• Somewhere along the way there’s got to be some aspect of what lets you get to achieve your dreams. First one is the role of parents, mentors, and students.

• And he (Andy Van Dam) said, Randy, it’s such a shame that people perceive you as so arrogant. Because it’s going to limit what you’re going to be able to accomplish in life.

• You just have to decide if you’re a Tigger or an Eeyore.

• I have a theory that people who come from large families are better people because they’ve just had to learn to get along.

• Loyalty is a two way street.

• Syl said, it took me a long time but I’ve finally figured it out. When it comes to men that are romantically interested in you, it’s really simple. Just ignore everything they say and only pay attention to what they do. It’s that simple. It’s that easy.

• You can’t get there alone. People have to help you and I do believe in karma. I believe in paybacks. You get people to help you by telling the truth. Being earnest.

• I’ll take an earnest person over a hip person every day, because hip is short term. Earnest is long term.

• Apologise when you screw up and focus on other people, not on yourself.

• Don’t bail. The best of the gold’s at the bottom of barrels of crap.

• Get a feedback loop and listen to it. Your feedback loop can be this dorky spreadsheet thing I did, or it can just be one great man who tells you what you need to hear. The hard part is the listening to it.

• Don’t complain. Just work harder. That’s a picture of Jackie Robinson. It was in his contract not to complain, even when the fans spit on him.

• Be good at something, it makes you valuable.

• Find the best in everybody. Just keep waiting no matter how long it takes. No one is all evil. Everybody has a good side, just keep waiting, it will come out.

• Be prepared. Luck is truly where preparation meets opportunity.

• It’s not about how to achieve your dreams. It’s about how to lead your life. If you lead your life the right way, the karma will take care of itself. The dreams will come to you.

While on my surfing routines, I stumble upon askmen.com and found an excellent survey, the 2008 great male survey and 2008 great female survey. Recently askmen.com had just revealed the 2008 Great Male Survey and 2008 Great Female Survey. It’s an interesting survey to get to know the latest modern man and woman. There are a few survey that caught my surprise, I would share with you at the end of the post. The surveys is good to know as men are from mars and women are from venus, they tend to react and think differently, the survey gives a woman better ideas what an average man thinks and feels, while man can better understand what a woman wants.

Modern Man, they no longer being portrayed as insensitive, immature and commitment phobe, man are now more prior towards loyalty and family. Applause to all man and this would definitely benefits all woman out there.

Modern Woman, this may seems surprise as modern woman are now more bold, sexy and  not afraid to go after what they wants. My surprise is that women have more sex partners - 20% of women admitted to having had more than 15 sex partners, while only 17% of the male respondents said have had more than 15 partners.

Alright, here’s more of my surprises,

Men
77% of men look for girlfriends with “wife potential”
69% of men would never cheat on their partner
57% of men cook at home and enjoying doing it
56% of men said that being a good father or husband makes a man “manly”
That’s good, does that means more man would looks for wife potential rather than girlfriend potential? I am not sure how to differentiate them but I am sure that being a wife potential should be able to cooks, taking care of the childrens, faithful, lovely and understanding. Less man cheater? how true? great man don’t cheat and how I wish my next partner would not cheat and I have enough of those experienced and learned a lesson from life from a great pretender. We use to think that man who know how to play music instruments(piano, guitar and etc) are attractive, but not for France woman, because they finds cooking man attractive, I am not sure where I read the new but I think this is true, being a good father or husband should be able to cook and this really makes them “manly”.

Women
20% of women admitted to having had more than 15 sex partners versus 17% of the male respondents said have had more than 15 partners.
34% of females respondents said they would not change a thing about their lovers versus 17% of men said the same.
23% of female respondents are completely satisfied with their sex lives, versus 14% of males.
17% of the female respondents have lied to a partner about their sexual experiences versus 31% of men have lied. 

Women are always interested in sex and relationship, what can I says about modern woman, more open and more sex partners. Hmm … I am doubt but rather agreed. Modern woman is getting less demanding and sastified, “maybe?”.

Read the surveys? What you say?

The old says it is better to have loved and lost then to never have love at all, the old also says that you reap what you sow, you get back what you give to others. How true is this when you are being cheated and dumped? If you are a buddhist you may call it “karma”, other people call it “what goes round comes around” but the BIBLE makes it very clear, “what you sow is what you reap.”

Love should be unconditionally, honest and faithful, love shouldn’t be one sided, what normally happens in a relationship in most cases is that what you give are often what you cannot expect in return. Love has no guarantee and rules, you cannot expect love if you don’t show love. The only love that can last for long is to love unconditionally, if it is one sided, it is often a short-term relationship or rebound. If you do not know what you need or want, don’t get into a relationship and realise that what you want is not what you need, you will hurt a soul and also waste his/her efforts puts into you.

Relationship is not a game, is not you can get in and out as you like, a true human being feelings and emotions is involve. A perfect and wonderful relationship should have care, forgiveness, sincerity, faithfulness, responsibility and HONESTY. A relationship must be HONEST and faithful to your partner, share the good and bad, responsibility and able to forgive each other. Lacking does not last a relationship long because it’s a one-sided relationship that has no emotional attachment between partners. If you do not have the emotions attachment you wouldn’t care, worried, or respect your partner and it is necessary the relationship does not last long. If you do not care, forgive, sincere, faithful, responsible and HONEST in the relationship you definitely do not get in return in your next relationship.

Relationship should be close to each other, comfortable, love and care. When there’s obstacles and arguments in a relationship, instead of focusing on hate and anger, both should be ready to forgive each other mistakes to strengthen the love. Walk hand in hand and responsible towards each other and make every effort together to give your best to each other to enjoy a long lovely and lasting relationship.

Honesty and faithfulness is a foundation of Love, what hold Love together is the trust between you and your partner. If you are not honest, the love would vanishes, if relationship has no trust, the relationship would not last long. As sooner of later your partner would come to know about it. Same goes to a breaks up, being honest would give you give an impression to your partner that you are worth to be with even the relationship does not work out. You get what you earn, being a good soul, honest and faithful to your partner would only leads to a romance relationship and your partner would treat you the same.

You reap what you sow if you are not honest and faithful in your previous relationship, the next relationship would come to bite you back. If it does not someday in your future when you are terribly sick, you may think of the past the bad thing you have done, you reap what you sow, you will feel the same pain you treated others.

It is very normal that you are good to people, you would get the same in return, if you are bad, you will get the same in return too. If you are reading this because you get cheated and dumped, I can assure you that you have done nothing wrong and if something never kill you, it will make you stronger, instead of focusing on the hatred, move on with your life rather than sitting there hoping your ex would get hurt by “KARMA”, because one day he/she would feel the same painful feeling you suffer today. Good things comes to those who wait, you deserve a better soul. Trust me!

Do you have one or more Yoga or meditation books on your shelves? Are they cover in dusts? Like many other, we often buy or read without get into regular practice. Our favourite words to use are “tired”, “no time” and ”lazy”. If that happened to you, you are not alone, I heard that all the times.

You learned that Yoga would give a better body figure, improve your lives and health, but it’s often hard that we would cultivate this attitude to

pic source: nymag.com

continue for a long time, it takes a thousand miles to begin with a single step. Different people would have different goals to achieve the results they desire, with different goals in mind, there goes different attitude, some people are too rushy, they start off too quickly and began by practicing everything for awhile and soon find themselves lose interest, fade away and quit, while some successful one start off slowly day by day and step by step following her own pace and schedules that keep them continuing for a long time. The tortoise ways to YOGA doesn’t take you ages to reach your goals, instead of thinking how hard and time consuming to reach the end of the journey, think about the next single steps to take to reach your destination. Tell yourself, program yourself, force yourself or whatever you can to commit yourself to a fews minutes practice each day.

If you remember the rabbit and the tortoise story, you would know tortoise win the race unexpectedly. Slow and steady takes you to the perfect body and health that you want.

So, I hope tortoise ways to YOGA would change your attitude to take every step at a time. Well, it’s easy said than done, ACTION speaks louder than words, start today and keep adding your step to win the race just like tortoise.

Cheers ~

Never thought of coffee is bad for you after you have read this article - Is coffee good or bad for your health?

As a coffee enthusiast myself, I often heard that “Coffee is bad for your health”, Well, I don’t think so, I would state that “Coffee is Good for YOU”

If you have read up the article that I had mentioned earlier, it shows that coffee is the number one source of antioxidants. Antioxidants are substances that may protect your cells against the effects of free radicals, it’s has the ability to protect your body’s cells from being destroyed by toxins. Toxins are destructive which could cause certain critical illnesses, such as cancer and heart disease.

Fruits and veggies contains Antioxidants, however it’s true that many of us took up coffee more than fruits and veggies as our daily dose of antioxidants.

If you are craving for antioxidants, here’s the Top 10 sources of antioxidants you can take:
(source : Antioxidants - Top 10 foods)  

1.  Small Red Beans
2.  Wild Blueberry
3.  Red Kidney Bean
4.  Dried Beans
5.  Pinto Bean
6.  Blueberry
7.  Cranberry
8.  Artichoke
9.  Dried Prune 
10.Raspberry

Despite all the given top foods for antioxidants, it was still not among the popular foods pick for antioxidants, coffee is still among the popular to consume either you know or unknown about the facts. This doesn’t mean that you need to consume mass amount of coffee for antioxidants, like everything in life, moderately will keep everything perfect.

Well, what are you waiting for, get yourself a coffee and start antioxidants today and by the way don’t give up fruits and veggies too!